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Ideas for your brain about your brain.
Simple explanations of:
- why people act the way they do
- what’s actually happening in confusing moments
- what your brain is doing behind the scenes
ooooh, you're a very curious system.
alas, nothing hiding back here
try the pictures below.
Things don't always happen in the order you think they do. In fact, sometimes it's just the opposite.
Your brain picked the fastest way to end the conversation.
That was the cheapest way out in the moment.
Because once you say something, it’s locked in. No edits.
Your brain treats that like a big deal.
Which it very well may be.
We all have the same parts.
Unfortunately, they're all calibrated wildly different from each other.
Therefore, it's totally impossible to figure out what they're thinking from inside your thinking.
The antenna scans faces trying to spot trouble before it’s even real.
It doesn't wait for full information.
It goes, “close enough,” and sends the info downstream.
Your brain doesn’t like blanks.
So it writes the missing message for them.
Usually, lots and lots of messages.
If you had been born somewhere else, you would believe something else.
Yeah, that made me think, "Oh wow" too. Mind blown.
You might think cows are sacred or dogs are food or transportation is your own two feet.
Because you're not debating facts.
You're each protecting how your world fits together in your own mind.
It compared the opinion to what you already believe.
It checked your Memory Archive which gave a quick, Nope!
Facts are irrelevant.
Your brain is constantly doing cost calculations behind the scenes.
It just doesn't always let you know why it decided what it decided.
Your brain already ran the numbers.
Changing it looked more expensive than staying the course.
Your brain remembered the cost of leaving.
Not just the reason you left.
The Social Engine tracks all those pesky social rules and expectations.
It adjusts your behavior so the room doesn’t turn on you.
If someone raises an eyebrow,
this part of the system turns it into a full meaning.
The same thought can carry a totally different risk level depending on whether you're talking to your mom, your boss, your grocery store checkout lady, or your teenager.
Your brain just updated your own rules.
Which is pretty smart. You don't want to be judged next.
Willpower is actually not a thing.
People never act because "they really wanted to."
They act because of the cost weighting going on in the background.
No surprise.
Different conditions = Different load = Different outcome.
They’re not trying harder.
They’re paying less for the same thing.
Two overreaction machines in action cause PIM.
You’re guessing what they will do.
They’re guessing what you will do.
Half the time you're both guessing wrong in real time.
It's not personal. It's the way it works.
They solved the problem they saw.
You're in a totally different issue.
It's not a communication problem.
They already closed the question.
While, you’re still exploring it.
That gap is the tension.